LJ friends

[johan]

I've surfed around in LJ today, finding a number of people I know (and some I assume I know, even though I can't make out who they are). A bit scary, finding stark accounts of how lousy some people feel, that I didn't have a clue about. I'm not sure it is for the best always to know so much about each other. Or maybe I'm just a coward.

I'm debating with myself who I want to add as friends. It's a scale from people I know and like so and so, to people I know and love or people I know and don't care for very much. And some people I know and like but who write only boring stuff and who I never meet IRL. Add them as friends or not? What are the pros and cons? Hmm. Not yet, in any case.

Comments

[sealwhiskers.livejournal.com]

Perhaps you are processing the difference in just being acquainted with some ppl on a certain level in Real Life, and then suddenly getting to see glimpses of the personal tone that is journal-writing. Places like this one are used for venting and reflection, and sometimes (but not always) some journal users can seem more depressed or down than they actually are.
I started this account for a couple of reasons, one of them being to practice the difficult art of reflection and openness, and of not giving that much of a damn. (a sadly neglected side of me that I once upon a time mastered better)
Some of my more revealing (and less flattering) posts are actually open, and the closed ones are not that saucy...mostly some bad "proetry" in need of restoration :)
I'm gonna add you. This does not mean that you have to add me back, or that I feel that we know each other well. On the contrary, nowadays we seem to belong to quite different worlds...but there was a time when I felt I knew you better, sometimes I've even liked you :)

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[jophan.livejournal.com]

Love you too! ;)

You were actually the first MF person I thought of adding, but then I stepped back and hesitated when I realized I didn't know whether I wanted to add *all* MF people I know or not. And since I didn't know that, I didn't add anyone. Yeah, I'm used to reading online journals and I know they're used as catharsis (and outlets for general whining, who doesn't love a good whine?). I'm just not sure I'm comfortable with knowing those sides in people I've known for a long time.

LJ is a very, very public place, and I don't think I'd want to bare myself here. Private email's a different thing.

Anyway, of course I'm adding you back. It's a pity we don't meet more often, but, well, I'm lazy and isolated and life is so full of people there's no way you can stay in touch with them all. More's the pity.

[northern]

Hi, northern here. Or Stella. Nice to see you around these parts!

Regarding the above response to seal's comment - I think you know a lot about me already. You're welcome to find out more, if you like. I would certainly be interested in reading more about you. So, yes, adding you.

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[jophan.livejournal.com]

Like the rings of a pebble dropped in a lake. I'm not sure you will found out that much more about me here. I've had this account for some time now, and I only just reconciled myself with the notion of actually using it as well. I don't even update my blog as often as I should...

We'll see.

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[northern]

Well, this ring was hardly any distance from seal's, since she was at my place when she replied to your entry.

I haven't seen you in forever, so I look at your journal as an opportunity to see more of you. I hope you *do* use your journal, simply because I miss you.